After the doom and gloom show with my dad on Tuesday morning I decided that I wasn't going to take his calls for a while.
He called twice yesterday during the day and I never picked up.
Today he called and it's like the whole world has changed. He's in a great mood, he's doing things for my mom, he's building things in the yard, doing the shopping, making dinners... And his mood is remarkably better.
I also just spoke with my mom and she's picked up on the reason for my mood lately. She apologized for both of them - saying that everybody has their problems but that it's not fair for them to dump their shit on me. (Well, she didn't say "dump their shit", that was my phrase.)
I told her that I love them both but I'm not their counselor so I don't really need to hear about all their marital problems.
Of course this doesn't fix all the problems - he is still an alcoholic and a drug addict and all the rest, but at least they've realized that they shouldn't involve me in their misery. For now.
I think it scares them into realization when I avoid them for a couple of days. Because I hold the trump card... Ruby. And they know I don't mess around when it comes to Ruby.