I decided to hold off on the sleep consultant until I gave sleep training a good try on my own. And upon many people's suggestions (many of you, the health nurse, my midwife) I bought "Healthy Sleep Habits, Happy Child" by Weissbluth. I like his theories and I believe in what he says but good Lord I can not read it fast enough. My spare moments are few and far between and I've barely just made it into the 3rd chapter!
Does crying it out ever NOT work? Is there a chance that he may not be teaching himself how to fall asleep but instead just falling asleep from pure exhaustion? And in the meantime am I just fucking up his life? (and mine).
I can only commit to doing it during the day because I have another child to consider and letting Lincoln scream through the night would wake up Ruby for sure and then my troubles would be two fold. So does that mean that the progress will be slower? I'm guessing it probably does.
And anyways I've made leaps and bounds with him at night, though it's still far from ideal. We've got the bedtime routine down pretty good and he's going 3 or 4 (and once even 5!) hour stretches in between feeds.
Daytime napping is the really big problem right now and that's when we cry it out (he and I both). I took video footage of him "crying" (SCREAMING) in his crib. Today he did it for an hour (I checked him at the correct intervals - which actually seemed to make it worse). Now I have the proof I need to exonerate myself when the police knock on my door because the neighbors have called to report a child being tortured. "Officer I wasn't burning him with cigarettes! I swear! I don't even smoke!"
No really, I did take a video of it. Is this normal? This is at about the 45 minute mark. After I took this video I went and took stock of the medicine cabinet to see what I had that might be effective in rendering me to a comatose state.
(Disclaimer: Baby screaming in video. Maybe don't watch at work or if you are sensitive. )
I played it for Steve and he said..... "Don't do that."
Ruby NEVER cried like this - that is all I have to compare to. Is that why it seems so over the top?
I just talked to my MIL and she said it wouldn't be good to let him cry too long and that maybe I should try a little whiskey. I told her, what a coincidence because I was actually just thinking about having some. But apparently she meant I should give it to Lincoln. Talk about old school. Just for the record, we don't do that anymore .... right?
It is during these screaming fits that I feel like I need professional help. Both for him and for myself. I need therapy and he needs professional sleep training. Or am I just being a big wuss? You'd think I was the first woman to sleep train her child, I know...