tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2221819811860290504.post3277807520817952025..comments2023-10-22T06:21:42.820-07:00Comments on A Run For My Money: StruggleTarahttp://www.blogger.com/profile/18384206429432741119noreply@blogger.comBlogger11125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2221819811860290504.post-82437129654516872032009-12-17T07:07:19.588-08:002009-12-17T07:07:19.588-08:00I just read this after your most recent post and y...I just read this after your most recent post and yes, please find Ruby a different daycare provider. This lady doesn’t sound like the best fit for Ruby at all. All kind of red flags went up in my head when reading this. It also sounds like she is unloading everything on you and putting the blame on you when it is far from it. ((big, big hugs))Spaceyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08218029997493071344noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2221819811860290504.post-59987336865999091092009-12-16T19:13:37.513-08:002009-12-16T19:13:37.513-08:00Tara, this is not your fault! If a woman with a un...Tara, this is not your fault! If a woman with a university degree can't understand that it takes babies...adults for that matter...weeks to adjust then she is an idiot! I would tell her to F herself and file a complaint against her so her daycare is investigated. For Ruby to come home with dried snot on her face and a full bottle in her bag suggests she isn't doing her job. I am in shock over this woman. She should not be taking care of children if she is "frustrated" with them! That is her JOB!! <br /><br />Don't worry, Ruby will find a loving daycare and she will adjust perfectly.Mehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03779070151226524451noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2221819811860290504.post-55593091296786417192009-12-15T20:59:21.809-08:002009-12-15T20:59:21.809-08:00Take care of her. (Not take care of you). Hehe....Take care of her. (Not take care of you). Hehe. Although I'm sure you feel the need to be taken care of right now! :)Emilyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14494920071338607649noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2221819811860290504.post-89943658211562973222009-12-15T20:58:12.577-08:002009-12-15T20:58:12.577-08:00This does not sound like the right daycare for her...This does not sound like the right daycare for her, regardless of what happened today.<br /><br />Is there any way family could take care of you, just to give you a bit more time to find a good daycare, instead of throwing her in any place because you're desperate to find somewhere quick?<br /><br />Tough situation. I would feel the same as you. I can't even imagine how hard it is, first of all to even leave her, second of all for that bitch to say that stuff to you. I used to work at a preschool (about 10 years ago). Even older toddlers could take several weeks to adjust! Sheesh! <br /><br />Perhaps you could find a 'daycare' where there is a larger group of children... There should be more staff at places like that. I know there is a kid:staff ratio. At least that way there might be someone that will take fondly to Ruby and pay some special attention to her while she gets used to the place? Also, being that it is a larger daycare you might be able to find more reviews on somewhere like that? I don't know. Oh wait... aren't there retarded wait lists at pplaces like that?<br /><br />Wishing you sanity. And luck.Emilyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14494920071338607649noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2221819811860290504.post-24561416950796434842009-12-15T20:00:07.853-08:002009-12-15T20:00:07.853-08:00Tara, you have received some good advice from the ...Tara, you have received some good advice from the girls, above. I have to say that the fact that Ruby did not respond in a positive way from the first day, gets my spidey senses tingling. It's best to look elsewhere and Ruby will be your best indicator as to whether it's a good place or not. She's only one year old, for Gods Sake!! the socializing crap she's giving you is bullshit.<br />Please try not to stress, all will work out...<br />Love you<br />CorneyAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2221819811860290504.post-42498417722423314872009-12-15T13:16:45.959-08:002009-12-15T13:16:45.959-08:00I have to agree about the daycare. If the care pr...I have to agree about the daycare. If the care provider is acting that frustrated in front of you, what's happening when you're not around? I know it must be so hard for you right now and the thought of finding another daycare on top of everything else going on must be daunting, but it's something to consider. She should be loving on Ruby, not acting pissy because she's having a tough time transitioning and wasn't "properly socialized" by you (which, by the way, is a complete crock). Part of her damn job is to help Ruby with the transition! I'm getting pissed just typing this! <br /><br />BTW - totally impressed with Ruby signing "milk". I've been signing to Little Husband since he was six months old and--while he understands completely what I'm saying--he has yet to sign back. I think he's a little older than Ruby so there you go! She's brilliant! ;)Femmenoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2221819811860290504.post-76955805296924944102009-12-15T12:42:54.990-08:002009-12-15T12:42:54.990-08:00Agree with all the above. I've got warning bel...Agree with all the above. I've got warning bells going off in my head reading your post. I don't like this woman, and I haven't even met her. She's not helping. AT ALL. We switched daycares after Ellie's first week at the first one. It happens. The first one just didn't fit. When I met Teri, I knew it would work. It just felt right. Nearly 3 years later, and Teri is like family. <br /><br />I know how hard it was for you to find this one, but I suggest you start searching for a new one. Soon. Even if it's a "school" instead of a home setting. I just wouldn't want to leave her with this woman any more. She can take her degree and shove it. <br /><br />I know us saying this may be stressing you out even more, but I KNOW how hard it is to leave your baby with someone new. Someone you may not totally trust. You do it because you have to, but you certainly don't have to like it. With Teri, I actually LIKE leaving Ellie there because she has such a good time. <br /><br />As for the tenants, GOOD RIDDANCE.Aliciahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13891751683807514855noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2221819811860290504.post-58592906891524951792009-12-15T12:36:51.208-08:002009-12-15T12:36:51.208-08:00I'm no daycare expert, but your lady sounds li...I'm no daycare expert, but your lady sounds like a grade-A bitch. I'm so sorry you're having a tough time. :(<br /><br />Things will get better soon. Just be glad those crazy tenants are out!Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2221819811860290504.post-6023028077026715742009-12-15T11:39:41.932-08:002009-12-15T11:39:41.932-08:00I also agree with mommyshoes - O had a ROUGH go of...I also agree with mommyshoes - O had a ROUGH go of it this summer with a transition from the infant room to the toddler room of our daycare center, and our providers were WONDERFUL in helping ease him through. <br /><br />There will be some period of transition. Ruby's going from having mommy home 100% of the time while she's awake to something like 30% of the time, and as mommyshoes said, she's at the peak of separation anxiety. <br /><br />A good caregiver will HELP ease that transition for the both of you.<br /><br />Hang in there, hon. It's rough, being back to work. You don't need the guilt on top of it either. I'd spend that time looking for a different caregiver for her.<br /><br />xxxxSerenityhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17765237663006604157noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2221819811860290504.post-53643417413631246262009-12-15T10:37:15.566-08:002009-12-15T10:37:15.566-08:00totally agree with Mommyshoes. Also what have you ...totally agree with Mommyshoes. Also what have you done for yourself lately? not that it is any of my business just sounds like you could use a break to recharge.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2221819811860290504.post-75920827735052437142009-12-15T10:35:16.172-08:002009-12-15T10:35:16.172-08:00I am so sorry this is so hard. I understand how m...I am so sorry this is so hard. I understand how much it hurts to leave your little one. ANd please forgive me for being direct, but you absolutely need a different daycare. When Z first started daycare in September, he really struggled and the response I got from his teacher was completely opposite of what you are getting. They were so kind and always focused on what positive thing he did that day even when it was a really hard day. And I have seen them with other new kids and they would never act the way your provider is. Right now, developmentally is the peak of separation anxiety and your provider needs to understand that and work with you. Her responses are absolutely unacceptable and the not feeding thing is enough right there IMO to find someone else. Lots and lots of hugs to you and Ruby.Mommy Shoeshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13625055463883932900noreply@blogger.com